Coaching

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Relationship Coaching

Using intimate relationships as fuel for liberation, deeper intimacy, and equanimity that isn't disrupted by the normal ups and downs of a shared life.

The work

I coach couples and individuals who are interested in using their relationships as fuel for their own liberation and awakening.

Some of the people I work with have deep meditation practices that generally support them in living an aligned life — but they notice their practice deteriorates in certain romantic dynamics. I help these clients bring their most triggering relational patterns onto the path.

Others are newer to meditation but are excited by the idea of developing an equanimity and compassion that aren't disrupted by the normal ups and downs of life in a relationship.

The goal isn't a frictionless relationship — it's to become the kind of person who can meet friction with openness, curiosity, and love.

Signs we may be a good fit

This work tends to resonate with people who hold themselves to a high standard and are genuinely curious about their own patterns:

  • You aim to love yourself and your partner just as you are — not a future, improved version.
  • You want to stop contorting yourself to fit your partner's expectations.
  • You want to discover — and give up — all the subtle ways you coerce and manipulate.
  • You're ready to laugh and find the humor in your patterns and disagreements.
  • You want to feel completely free asking your partner for exactly what you want, and be okay whether or not you get it.
  • You want to learn to feel excited when conflict arises — and to navigate that conflict to find deeper intimacy on the other side.

Couples and individuals

I work with both individuals and couples. Individual sessions often focus on understanding and shifting your own patterns — what you bring to your relationships — while couples sessions work with the dynamic in real time.

Many people find it valuable to do a mix of both.

In Their Words

What clients say

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"Brian's approach to relationships helped me see the ways I was showing up in my own life that were creating distance rather than closeness — and that realization changed everything. I came in thinking the work was about my partner. It turned out to be mostly about me, in the best possible way."

— Client, Relationship Coaching

"I had tried a lot of different approaches to relationship work over the years. What Brian brought was different — something that got underneath the content of our disagreements to the patterns holding them in place. We both left sessions feeling more spacious, not just having 'resolved' something."

— Client, Couples Coaching

Note: I'm gathering additional testimonials for this page. The quotes above are representative composites shared with permission. Feel free to ask me directly for references.